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Friday, May 28, 2010

The Great Misunderstanding & the Pentecost Paradox

Preached on Pentecost 2010, May 23, at Douglas Congregational United Church of Christ by Rev. Andy DeBraber

Scripture: Acts 2:1-21, John 14:8-17, 25-27


Have you ever been misunderstood? I mean really misunderstood, like no one ever understands you and no one ever will. Certainly we identify this with teenagers who feel like their parents will never “get them.” Maybe you’ve seen the youngest among us struggle to communicate as they just begin to grasp the language; and seen them throw their hands up in dismay or cry in frustration or yell out in anger, even repeating what they are saying over and over and over again, as if somehow repetition would bring clarity.


We may have experienced being misunderstood, or may be experiencing it now, in the relationships to those closest to us, in relationship to our coworkers, or in relationship to what we do for a living. “Why can’t you just see it my way?” “Don’t you understand I have a job to do?” “Is this really what I’m meant to be doing with my life?”


The Great Misunderstanding may also come around the health of our bodies, minds, and emotions: “Do you know how badly I want that next drink?” “How can you really understand what it’s like for me to be so depressed?” “You don’t know what it’s like for me to have to live in a body that’s like this.” “Do you know that sometimes I think about just driving off the road?”


With Pentecost, the early Christian church converted the Jewish Festival of the Weeks into its own festival. The Festival of the Weeks happened seven weeks after Passover and was a celebration of the first fruits of each year’s harvest. Thus pente-cost, fifty days.


The Church’s festival of Pentecost also became a celebration of the first fruits of the harvest. The story Ron read for us this morning later concludes that 3,000 people “were added,” the first additional followers of Jesus since his death and resurrection, at least on the record. Thus this is sometimes called the “birthday of the church.”


How did it happen? With the promised gift of the Spirit. As evidenced most clearly by what? Languages. Many languages. The followers of Jesus speaking in tongues previously unknown to them. And those gathered in Jerusalem, having brought the first fruits of their harvest for the Pentecost celebration, heard this speaking, each in their own language.


Not unlike the experience of walking around in another country, feeling lost because you can’t read the signs. Whenever you try to ask a question, people just look at you quizzically. Walking by certain places, you see people talking and laughing and pointing, and you worry that they are laughing at you, but you have no clue because you can’t understand what in the world they are saying!

Until one moment you think you hear something familiar. Walking past the open door of the local pub and grub, a word catches your ear. And you can understand it! Glory be! Hallelujah! You rush in, happy to have found someone to connect with -- finally, someone who understands!


Now imagine that scene again, except this time, suddenly it’s you who, upon seeing a stranger lost in the Great Misunderstanding, begins to speak a different language. Something somehow comes over you (read Spirit) as the Divine Translator. You speak another’s language. They understand. They feel welcomed. They feel heard.


One of the miraculous truths of Pentecost is not that everyone understood the same language, but rather that God’s Spirit delighted in and joined in the great diversity of languages present that day. One common language would have been another way to pursue the same end, but at the cost that some would become dominant and others subservient. Pentecost restores the dignity of each language and recognizes the beauty and necessity of the many.


Many of us have been attracted to this community, Douglas Congregational United Church of Christ, because we have been understood for the first time in a place where for so long we have felt misunderstood. Whether it’s our gender, gender identity, intellect, sexual orientation, or open-mindedness, we have been heard and spoken to here in a language we understand, in a language we haven’t heard in many other places that call themselves “church.”


The paradox inherent in our welcome here, in the Great Misunderstanding, in Pentecost, is that we are never alone -- someone somewhere always understands and speaks our language -- and that we will never be fully understood -- we are complex beings full of mystery and changing by the day.


Living in this Pentecost Paradox means finding someone, or a group of someones, who understand at least in part and who are willing to listen to my language. Such people don’t always simply appear. Often, we must seek them out.


Living in this Pentecost Paradox means being someone who understands, learns to speak other languages, and truly listens, trying to understand those who “speak” differently than we do. When we see another caught in the Great Misunderstanding, into which they will often offer fleeting glimpses to those with eyes to see, the imperative is upon us to trust that the Spirit will give us ears to hear their language and voice to speak it. They will know again they are not alone. Someone cares. Someone understands. This might mean inviting others to this place, that speaks a Progressive language of faith not found many other places in west Michigan.


Finally, living in this Pentecost Paradox means putting ourselves in the presence of this Spirit, this Advocate, this one who understands us fully and fully desires the best for us, this God who Loves us, each day. Breathe it in. Know it. Let its peace dwell in us, that we might share it with all the world. Let us practice this now.

Worship Team Training Coming Up

We have a baker's dozen of folks who have signed up to help plan and lead worship during Pastor Andy's sabbatical in August, September, and October. Those folks are:

August: Mike VerMerris, Dan Mack, Rachael Overweg, Rodney Terwilliger
September: Lynne Snyder, Robert Trenary, John Kempf, Barb Lucier, Dick Lucier
October: Gwenda Schmidt, Kathy Austin, Laurie Van Den Beldt, Marilyn Fox

We will hold two identical training sessions for the people on these times and anyone else who would like to take part on Sunday, June 6, after worship (11:45 a.m.-1 p.m.) and Wednesday, June 9, 7-8:30 p.m. Folks can still join these teams or just come to learn more about worship and worship leadership. People are free to attend one or both of these sessions. Here's what will be included:

--walking through the elements of the worship service: what it is, why is it here, what does it do, how do we lead it, can we move it around
--coming up with a leader for each month's team
--presentation of ideas for the homily each week, i.e., a guest speaker, one of our own, one of you, music, creative interaction
--lectionary readings for the weeks
--possible themes and special services (i.e., Labor Day, Worldwide Communion Sunday, Coming Out Day)
--music planning
--how to make sure all areas are covered seamlessly (or as much as possible)
--how we can practice during June & July what you'd like to put in place or lead

The Council decided against hiring someone to see us through this period because we believe we have such capable leaders on these planning teams! Thank you! This puts the reponsibility on us to make sure we have these 13 weeks planned by the time the sabbatical begins on August 1.

If you'd like to come to one of the sessions, please RSVP to pastor@douglasucc.org by June 4 via email or phone (269.857.2085) which session you will be attending so we can plan appropriately.

Clean-up Day Thank You!

Thank you so much to everyone who worked on our clean-up day this past Sunday! The yards looks so much better, the Memorial Garden is beautiful, and we can see out the windows again! What a great bunch of workers!

Friday, May 21, 2010

Pentecost!!! Wear Red, Bring Red Potted Flowers, & Stay for our Spring Clean-Up

This Sunday, May 23, is Pentecost, the day we celebrate the gift of the Holy Spirit to the church. We will have a new liturgy for the season and great new music with the choir returning.

The color of Pentecost is red, symbolizing the Spirit coming as tongues of fire upon the people present that day. Red is also the color of passion and of our life-blood. Let's join in this living symbol by wearing red Sunday. If you can, also bring a red potted flower to beautify the sanctuary during worship and then to beautify our church and retreat house yards afterwards in preparation for the big Memorial Day weekend and summer in Douglas!

We will have a BBQ Potluck in the Retreat House yard following worship. Then, if you can stay to help, we'll have a grand time at our annual Spring Clean-Up. Please wear or bring clothes you can work the yard in. Also, please bring any tools you think might be helpful -- garden spades, rakes, gloves, etc.

Let's make it look like the Spirit has swept over our property!

E-Waste Recycling Opportunity in Douglas June 5

Saturday, June 5, 9 a.m.-1 p.m., DeMond's SuperValu Parking Lot, Douglas

Put Saturday, June 5, 2010 on your calendars! A free E-WASTE RECYCLING OPPORTUNITY is coming back to Saugatuck-Douglas for a second time. Last year we collected close to 9,000 pounds. This year we want to get the business and residential community involved in recycling. We are setting a goal to collect 15,000 pounds! Electronic waste is a growing concern to our environment. When put in landfills, e-waste can leak harmful toxins into our soil and water. You can help make a difference on June 5.

All Saints' Episcopal Church in Saugatuck is partnering with West Michigan Creation Care to bring e-waste recycler, Comprenew Environmental, to hold another drop-off collection in DeMond’s Grocery parking lot for many business and household electronic items as well as computer components and accessories.

You clean your attics, basements, or garages of your e-waste and bring it to us to load in a huge Haworth trailer. All is free to you with the exception of a $10 donation for each television. TVs have dangerous chemicals that need to be processed in a much more rigorous manner.

Lists of appropriate items for recycling will be available in local churches, stores and city offices. Please help us reach the 15,000-pound goal, and clean out those old items taking up space!

Quote Time

While I am busy
with little things,
I am not required to
do greater things.

~ St. Francis de Sales

PFLAG Lakeshore to Watch "Through My Eyes" from Young Gay Christians

Today, Friday, May 21, at 7 p.m., PFLAG Lakeshore will show "Through My Eyes" a 2009 DVD created by Christians for Christians struggling with their sexuality and their love of God. Two dozen young Christians agreed to share their private feelings, struggles, and experiences on camera. All of them hoped that their stories might make a difference. This 46 minute DVD is sponsored by the Gay Christian Network. We were going to show it in March but were not able to show it due to so many new people coming that evening.

Our original program on the book Love Ellen: A Mother/Daughter Journey will be given at a future time. Remember to bring a snack to share - beverages are provided, 7-9 p.m., Grace Episcopal Church basement, 555 Michigan Ave. Hope to see you there!


Leading Anti-Gay Voice Break's Heart of HRC's Harry Knox


Leading anti-gay voice involved with male sex worker

WASHINGTON – Upon news that George Alan Rekers – a founder of the Family Research Council and a leading voice in the anti-LGBT movement – vacationed in Europe with a male sex worker, Human Rights Campaign Religion and Faith Program Director Harry Knox made the following statement:

“My heart is broken as I read of Rev. George Rekers’ hypocrisy. I hurt for the thousands of lesbian, gay and bisexual people he has caused to be put through discredited pseudo-therapies in an attempt to change the God-given gift of their sexual orientation. I hurt for the children who are still in foster care that Rekers helped prevent from finding permanent loving homes with gay parents in Florida and Arkansas. And I feel pain for George Rekers himself, who is the first and worst victim of his internalized homophobia.

“Jesus said, ‘You will know the truth and the truth will set you free.’ The truth has come out about George Rekers. Let us pray that it sets him, and the rest of us, free.”

The story was first reported earlier this week by the Miami New Times. Rekers is a leading proponent of discredited “change” therapies that have been proven to be damaging for lesbian, gay and bisexual people. He testified in court in favor of keeping Florida’s ban on gays and lesbians from adopting children.

The Human Rights Campaign is America’s largest civil rights organization working to achieve lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender equality. By inspiring and engaging all Americans, HRC strives to end discrimination against LGBT citizens and realize a nation that achieves fundamental fairness and equality for all.

Represent Douglas UCC at "The Caring Society" Conference in DC

Consider attending the conference

Creating "The Caring Society": A Progressive Alternative to Tea Party Extremism and Corporate Domination of American Politics and Culture


June 11-14 in Washington D.C. Come back and share with us what you learned, saw, and did. Financial assistance may be available. Read more about the conference at

http://www.spiritualprogressives.org/article.php/2010conferences


A Unique Strategy Conference Bringing together Religious and Spiritual Progressives with Secular Liberals and Progressives in the Age of Obama to explore strategies appropriate for the complexities of a period in which the failures of the Democrats to present a coherent progressive vision and program has created the space for the rise of a quasi-fascist and racist movement on the Right that threatens to move all of American political discourse in violent and destructive ways, and simultaneously to strengthen corporate dominance. We will address strategy both in response to the immediate crisis of 2010, and also in regard to building a long-term vision of the economic, spiritual, and ethical dimensions of a democratic society that could re-inspire people to fight for fundamental changes and societal transformation beyond the limits of "inside-the-beltway pragmatism" and "being realistic" in terms set by the corporate media.

D.C. June 11-14 (and demonstration at the White House June 13)

  • Countering "Tea Party" extremism and corporate dominance with a coherent and attractive alternative that addresses the pain people are feeling in American society today
  • Explore the new vision for liberal and progressive politics: The Caring Society
  • Constitutional Amendments to Restrain Corporate Power and Require Corporate Environmental & Social Responsibility
  • Move politics beyond the "Inside-the-Beltway realism and pragmatism" that has undermined hope for real change
  • The Global Marshall Plan--and the primacy of ending Poverty and Economic Despair in the US and around the world
  • Middle East Peace
  • Other Strategies for the Obama years ahead

At the site above you will find:

1. Speakers (an incredible list!) 2. Description of our Goals 3. Tentative Agenda for the conference 4. Tentative version of the Enviornmental and Social Responsibility Amendment to the U.S. Constitution

Out of the Shadows: Understanding & Meeting the Needs of Older LGBT Adults

Check out this new report from the wonderful Center for American Progress:

http://www.americanprogress.org/issues/2010/04/lgbt_elders.html

Older LGBT Americans have been largely invisible until very recently. Yet they make up a significant and growing share of the LGBT and over 65 populations. LGBT elders are gaining visibility with the aging of LGBT Baby Boomers, who are the first generation of LGBT people to have lived openly gay or transgender lives in large numbers.

These individuals confront all the same challenges of people who age. But they also face unique barriers and inequalities that stem from the effects of social stigmas and prejudice, their reliance on informal “families of choice” for care and support, and inequitable laws and programs that treat LGBT elders unequally. These barriers can prevent LGBT elders from achieving three key elements of successful aging: financial security, good health and health care, and social support and community engagement.

That’s why Services and Advocacy for Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, & Transgender Elders and theMovement Advancement Project recently released “Improving the Lives of LGBT Older Adults” in partnership with the Center for American Progress, the American Society on Aging, and the National Senior Citizens Law Center, which provides an overview of LGBT elders’ unique needs and the policy and regulatory changes that are needed to adequately address them.

Read the rest at the above web site, including barriers and solutions in the areas of financial security, good health and health care, and social support and community engagement.

Quote Time

Perfectionism is
the voice of the oppressor.

~ Anne Lamott

Rainbow Family Week Coming July 10-16!!

We are excited to once again be one of the major hosts of Family Week this year. Families from around the country will descend with joy and exuberance on the church, retreat house, and all of Douglas and Saugatuck for the week of July 10-16.

If you know families that same-gendered parents or transgendered parents, please encourage them to come to this most amazing week. Watch for the schedule posted soon to see how you can be involved. Or contact Greg Gerrans or Becky and Julie Carten-Crandell to ask how you can volunteer. See more at the Rainbow Famlies Great Lakes web site:

http://www.rfgl.org/FamilyWeek/family_week.html

Support UCC Efforts in Arizona with Ad

Dear UCC friend:


While immigration debates are always complex and often heated, there are certain pivotal moments in our life together when the church is asked, "Do you care?" This is one of those important moments.


We have heard clearly from Hispanic members of the United Church of Christ and those who minister with them that a visible, pastoral and dignified word needs to come from the UCC to those who are hurting, fearful and left vulnerable by the passage of Arizona's stringent immigration enforcement law, including those who are U.S. citizens.


"God's love knows no borders" is the headline of the United Church of Christ's message, one that underscores the UCC General Synod’s support for comprehensive immigration reform at the federal level. See the full ad at http://www.ucc.org/news/images/arizonast2large.jpg


Already, we have commitments to cover nearly half of the $22,000 needed to purchase this full page ad in the statewide Arizona Republic newspaper. Our hope is to run this ad on Saturday, May 29, the day when 500,000 protesters are expected to gather in Phoenix. But we need to raise at least $12,000 more over the next seven days.


We need your help to share this pastoral message of solidarity and support. Will you help make this ad possible with your gift of $10, $25, $50 or even $250 dollars?
Please go to https://secure3.convio.net/ucc/site/Donation2?df_id=1244&1244.donation=form1&JServSessionIdr004=isosnruwn1.app332a


By Wednesday, May 26, we will need to determine if we have sufficient money to place this ad buy. This is why your timely response is necessary. In addition to online support, checks can be made payable to United Church of Christ (Tell Our Story Fund), 700 Prospect Ave., Cleveland, OH 44115-1100.


Thank you for this and all the ways you work to support and proclaim the "God is still speaking" message.



The Rev. Geoffrey A. Black
General Minister and President
United Church of Christ
The Rev. M. Linda Jaramillo
Executive Minister
UCC Justice and Witness Ministries












P.S. Any additional money raised will enable us to purchase a Spanish-language version of this same ad in several regional and national Latino/a publications. We need and appreciate your support!

Making Change Happen: A Moving Experience!

By William H. Tweedley (www.WHTcoaching.com; William and his partner Dan have been regular visitors to Douglas UCC)

In the last month or two I have made numerous large transitions in my life: I resigned from my 'stable' work of hospital chaplaincy, moved out of the place my partner and I called home for the last 7 years and we moved - with two cats that were unaccustomed to travel - to Washington DC, where we have established our new home.

Any one of those transitions is a major change. Any change in life can be challenging - even the changes we choose. Change is unsettling, energy-zapping, energizing, exciting, scary, freeing, joyous, depressing, and full of rich possibility. We survived our move and lived to tell the tale!
During this time I noticed what has allowed me to step into these changes with (mostly) enthusiasm. Whether you are looking to undertake a major change in life, or plan change on a smaller scale, here is what I discovered in my own transition:
  1. We know in our hearts when it is time to change our life. There is a stirring within us that says, "This situation no longer honors my values", or "This task is no longer good for my wellbeing" or "This pattern is no longer acceptable to me. I'm ready for change." This inner awareness can happen even though your goal is uncertain and the outcome unclear. What is no longer acceptable in your own life?
  2. Choosing our perspective is important. I saw that lived out in the voices of friends and colleagues. Some were excited and saw the positive that change brings, the exciting possibilities that lie in doing a new thing. Others were afraid of the change I had freely chosen for my life. Others were only focused on their own sense of loss, and not on what it meant to my life. None of these are wrong - just different perspectives. And in times of change the voices that you hear on the outside probably reflect your own thoughts happening inside your head. You get to decide which voice(s) you choose to listen to when you have decided on a change. What is your perspective on the change you want to make in your life?
  3. It won't always go to plan!! And you will survive. The Icelandic volcano's eruption meant we had family stranded with us for 5 days longer than planned - just as we prepared to pack. The movers took longer than planned to load the truck, delaying our planned departure. We had 7 days with almost empty rooms as the mover delivered later than we had prepared for. The cable company (now Former Cable Company!) took 5 days and 5 engineers to connect our internet. With all that, we still made it work. We adapted, improvised, we learned for any future move and we used some of the time to go explore this new city. And to catch up on sleep. What positive thing has come from unplanned situations in your life?
  4. People want to help - but you have to take the initiative. My main focus has been taking the initiative to ask the few people I already knew in Washington to help me connect to others they knew - in order to get grounded, establish some community, know the needs I can serve, and to think about what comes next as I create my future here. I've been astonished at how helpful people have been in introducing me to friends, colleagues and business acquaintances. And I've had to be willing to do the leg-work to keep this moving forward. How does the leg-work that change look different when you know you have 'unseen' waiting to meet you?
  5. Take a risk. And then another. As I reach out to people and new contacts, I have been willing to take a risk, ask for what I want, and be prepared to hear the response: 'absolutely' or 'no - sorry'. I have not taken 'no' as a personal slight - because it isn't. It is also important for you to keep taking those risks if you want to be creating something new in your life. What risks are you willing to take, even if it is a small one?
They say moving home is one of the most stressful events in life. Yes, it is. Any change can be stressful. Yet change is inevitable in life - either it happens to us, or we make it happen. Most often life is a combination of both. When you invite change into your life journey, seeking to engage life at a richer, deeper level, you will find more fulfillment, confidence, achievement as you offer your abilities to the world around us.
Are you ready for some change in your life? Believe in yourself, set your goal and go for it!
© 2010 WHT Coaching LLC
Thoughts, reactions or comments?
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